Issue at Work

Lets start with a little background. I work at Dunkin Donuts, getting the job because my uncle is the manager. Most of the afternoon shift (which is the shift I work on weekdays) and an older woman of the night shift have always had conflicts with each other (nothing physical) and basically didn't get along.

So here is the problem. About three weeks ago this woman named Carol (About age 45) was complaining that we forgot to do something in preparation for their incoming shift. I told her that its not a big deal, the things we forgot to do would take them five minutes max. (Also, its not uncommon for one shift to pick up after the previous shift, its a never ending cycle. Generally no one complains, because they are usually minor issues.) She started flipping out about how it wasn't her responsibility to do my job. I agree, this is true. But it usually never results in a conflict, and isn't that big of a deal. (She has been known to start drama for the smallest reasons, making mountains out of molehills.) She never liked me, but ever since this conflict she hates me even more. Today I go to leave work, but my ride isn't there yet. So I sit at a table and wait. Surprise surprise, she starts talking shit behind my back thinking that I've left already.

So here is my take on the situation: She is the most immature 45-year-old I have ever met. She says completely inappropriate things, however sarcastic she is, it just isn't necessary and I don't want to hear it from someone older than my mother. I never liked her but never had a direct conflict with her until now. I admit I've talked plenty of times about how bitchy she is, but I'm not scared to let her know that. But if she has a problem with me, she shouldn't wait until I leave. She should be able to say it to my face. Problem is she is probably scared, since my uncle is the manager. Next time I see her I plan to call her out on it, and see what she has to say. I don't like when things are being said about me completely unnecessarily.

Do you guys have any advice on how I should handle it differently? Obviously I don't want to ignore it. Its very likely that I won't get fired for anything I do for reasons stated above, although I don't plan to handle this in an immature way. I could tell my uncle, but he doesn't like to deal with these problems. As he quotes "I'm a manager, not a babysitter." Plus, I don't feel like it should really involve him at this level, seeing as its not a very big deal. Ideas would be appreciated.

Ask her upfront about it, asking her if she wants to resolve the issues, saying that she should be much mature than she is acting. Leave your uncle out of the picture for now, and try to decrease the conflict between you two.

I could give no good advice without giving a sarcastic advice so, i'll just say slap her... err pat her on the head.

Wow, 45 year old working at dunkin donuts. She sounds likes she's on the fast track to success.

Use your D claws to spec her out, then collect your loot of boston creme donuts from the kill.

But seriously I don't really have any good advice for you :<

I tend to like to deal with things the moment they arise, so
I probably would have said "helllloooo" as soon as I heard
her voice behind me. ; )

But, since you didn't, I agree with Nick that you should talk
to her, in a way that doesn't put her on the defensive right off,
and let her know that you are aware of the tension and would
like to resolve it "without involving" your uncle. If she values her
job and thinks you are sincere, she should act approriately.

I do think though, that when you get the chance, you should
let your uncle know the basic situation but also that you are
handling it. He needs to be informed in case confronting her
causes it to escalate instead of making it better.

ur uncles the manager right? get him to throw her out or just punch her in the face and quit.

Try talking to her in a reasonable manner.
If that fails, flame her until she quits.

let her go, its not worth comfronting her due to.

1.women, you must respect her and unlike men, they don't reason.

2. her age makes her older, in society that means your comfrontration will be viewed as an attack on her.

3. she has nothing to lose meanwhile you do.

in all honesty give the heads up to your manager and when the times comes they can bail you out and take it from there. its only fair to say that there are certain fights not worth fighting for.

this is one of them

fuk that bitch smack her in the head wth is wrong with her

somehow make ur uncle fire that bithc