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Halp!
By NightRawrs on 27/07/2009
Right, I'm BISEXUAL. Okay?
Do i tell my mum? Or my friends first? I can't decide..
Only a few people know, and it's widely known irl that i'm straight. When i'm not, i dunno what to do. Halp please?
Do i tell my mum? Or my friends first? I can't decide..
Only a few people know, and it's widely known irl that i'm straight. When i'm not, i dunno what to do. Halp please?
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| Problem with telling my friends is they're all raging homophobes.. Like they think any girl that isn't straight fancies EVERY GIRL EVER.. When it's totally not true! So i'm stuck sad.gif! |
By ThisIsUnique on 27/07/2009
I would say it to best friends first
By sgtswordfish on 27/07/2009
if your parents are strong conservatives i wouldn't bother telling them
also, depending on your age then you should mention your current sex appeal.
if you're in high school, not reccommended, in college, as a man, not reccommended, after that. people don't care
that's all there is to it. asssociate yourself with people that understand you.
also, depending on your age then you should mention your current sex appeal.
if you're in high school, not reccommended, in college, as a man, not reccommended, after that. people don't care
that's all there is to it. asssociate yourself with people that understand you.
By NightRawrs on 27/07/2009
Problem with telling my friends is they're all raging homophobes.. Like they think any girl that isn't straight fancies EVERY GIRL EVER.. When it's totally not true! So i'm stuck 
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! By Bassism on 27/07/2009
What I would do, is try and drop hints to your friends that you don't think bisexuality is such a big deal like, if you see two girls holding hands and someone makes a comment, just say something like "What's wrong with it really? Does it do anything to hurt you? No." or "It's not their fault they're into girls, I doubt they're doing it to be rebellious.".
And if you do tell your friends say something along the lines of "Don't you want me to be happy?" If any of them answer no to that, then they're not you're friends.
Worst comes to the worst, move to Brighton, I know loads of Bisexual and Gay people from Brighton, one of my best friends is bisexual, and all that made me think about was getting into a threesome with her
Anything you need, door is open.
~Owen
PS.
Bisexual?
Hot.
You need anything, PM.
And if you do tell your friends say something along the lines of "Don't you want me to be happy?" If any of them answer no to that, then they're not you're friends.
Worst comes to the worst, move to Brighton, I know loads of Bisexual and Gay people from Brighton, one of my best friends is bisexual, and all that made me think about was getting into a threesome with her
Anything you need, door is open.
~Owen
PS.
Bisexual?
Hot.
You need anything, PM.
By Dallar on 27/07/2009
Just stay true to what you are and don't give a fuck for peoples opinion. I've got 3 bisexual girlfriends and they are more popular than ever.. But then again, this is Denmark.
If your friends abandon you because of your sexual orientation, then they don't deserve you. I know it's tough but you might experience them distancing from you in the beginning, but in the end they'll come back if they love you for who you are now.
Just because you are attracted to the same sex doesn't mean you'll hump every living organism, and if they fail to understand that, you should give them a chance to grow up.
If your friends abandon you because of your sexual orientation, then they don't deserve you. I know it's tough but you might experience them distancing from you in the beginning, but in the end they'll come back if they love you for who you are now.
Just because you are attracted to the same sex doesn't mean you'll hump every living organism, and if they fail to understand that, you should give them a chance to grow up.
By Havochaha on 27/07/2009
Make a bi porn video with some really hot actors and show it to your parents and friends. Theyll be too turned on to give a shit.
By BPN on 27/07/2009
Dont tell anyone, go into Bi porn, show them ur bank account. and they'll accept u!
Anyways, Ill start with family. those are people who will MOST LIKELY accept it, if they do it gives u more confidence to tell anyone else. And if people dont accept it, then i guess they're not worth it
Anyways, Ill start with family. those are people who will MOST LIKELY accept it, if they do it gives u more confidence to tell anyone else. And if people dont accept it, then i guess they're not worth it
By Back to Own on 27/07/2009
Doubt your friends would ditch just because you're bi.
As for your parents, you don't really need to tell
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As for your parents, you don't really need to tell
. By KKs69 on 27/07/2009
Do you have a particular NEED to let your friends and family know about this? I wouldn't bother pressing this issue with people until a situation comes up where they're going to know about it anyways, your sexuality shouldn't be a concern to them, and you shouldn't worry about bringing it up just yet.
The truth about a female bisexual they're somewhat more common than you'd think. Depending on your age group and your geographic location, people will be more understanding of your sexuality as you grow up. I know a great girl who is bisexual (she's currently dating one of my best friends, male) and nobody has any problem with her.
If you're fairly young (junior in high school or younger, we'll say) you will probably recieve some shit for your views. but the two things most important to remember about that is this:
1. Everyone gets shit in high school.
2. High school was/isn't/won't ever be that important.
bottom line, if this is how you truly feel, then you shouldn't concern yourself with how everyone feels about it, but at the same time, there isn't a real need to flaunt the issue if you think it will cause strife at this point in your life.
Nice to meet you by the way!
The truth about a female bisexual they're somewhat more common than you'd think. Depending on your age group and your geographic location, people will be more understanding of your sexuality as you grow up. I know a great girl who is bisexual (she's currently dating one of my best friends, male) and nobody has any problem with her.
If you're fairly young (junior in high school or younger, we'll say) you will probably recieve some shit for your views. but the two things most important to remember about that is this:
1. Everyone gets shit in high school.
2. High school was/isn't/won't ever be that important.
bottom line, if this is how you truly feel, then you shouldn't concern yourself with how everyone feels about it, but at the same time, there isn't a real need to flaunt the issue if you think it will cause strife at this point in your life.
Nice to meet you by the way!
By Winddancir on 27/07/2009
Okay, after all the advice from every one else... Here's my take on it.
You've got your friends, who are mostly homophobic. (retards) Parents... Depends on how conservative they are, your choice there. Most of the guys... Will think it's hot and want to have a threesome with you and another girl. Of course, they also think it will be the two girls paying most of the attention to him... (idiots)
Honestly? Keep it quiet for a while. Play off the calm, so what about gay/lesbians? (like what Owen said) It's no big deal. Eventually, your friends won't really give a shit if they see you kissing a girl.
You've got your friends, who are mostly homophobic. (retards) Parents... Depends on how conservative they are, your choice there. Most of the guys... Will think it's hot and want to have a threesome with you and another girl. Of course, they also think it will be the two girls paying most of the attention to him... (idiots)
Honestly? Keep it quiet for a while. Play off the calm, so what about gay/lesbians? (like what Owen said) It's no big deal. Eventually, your friends won't really give a shit if they see you kissing a girl.
By Colinwarrior on 27/07/2009
| QUOTE (Havochaha @ July 27, 2009 05:01 pm) |
| Make a bi porn video with some really hot actors and show it to your parents and friends. Theyll be too turned on to give a shit. |
This.
Then send me the link.
By Ka Pineapple on 27/07/2009
Just be true to yourself.
Tell your closest friends first as usually its easier for friends to accept who you are regardless . Friends are generally easier to tell anything than parents
Tell your parents aswell, they should love you regardless no matter what your sexual orientation
or if you'd prefer you can stay in the closet.
Tell your closest friends first as usually its easier for friends to accept who you are regardless . Friends are generally easier to tell anything than parents
Tell your parents aswell, they should love you regardless no matter what your sexual orientation
or if you'd prefer you can stay in the closet.
By NightRawrs on 27/07/2009
Thanks everyone. 
This has helped.
I don't want to stay in the closet, i'll tell my parents, and then just let my friends ignore it. As i know they shouldn't dis-own me, but i think they will.
This has helped.I don't want to stay in the closet, i'll tell my parents, and then just let my friends ignore it. As i know they shouldn't dis-own me, but i think they will.
By VEPHYSAURAS on 27/07/2009
Just seduce all your friends. Instant win.
By ThisIsUnique on 27/07/2009
I don't really care about it, if i knew some girl irl who was bi i would think it's hot but i wouldn't care much
By Nick on 28/07/2009
Slowly hint to your parents, and then your friends.
When you know that there isn't much of a problem, finally state that you are bi, and make sure that you can somewhat discuss it with them; especially your friends.
When you know that there isn't much of a problem, finally state that you are bi, and make sure that you can somewhat discuss it with them; especially your friends.
By Fullmetal792 on 28/07/2009
| QUOTE (Havochaha @ July 27, 2009 12:01 pm) |
| Make a bi porn video with some really hot actors and show it to your parents and friends. Theyll be too turned on to give a shit. |
I lol'd.
OT: I'd say the best advice so far has been from Bassism and Tabs.
| QUOTE (Bassism) |
| And if you do tell your friends say something along the lines of "Don't you want me to be happy?" If any of them answer no to that, then they're not you're friends. |
+1, if your friends are too self centered to not care about the people around them, then why would you consider them your friends when they don't care about you enough to want you to be happy?
By Kecooler on 28/07/2009
| QUOTE (Whizzy110 @ July 27, 2009 02:26 pm) |
| Do i tell my mum? Or my friends first? I can't decide.. |
Well you actually told WG first
The question is if you REALLY want to tell someone. In this day and age, bisexuality is still a bit on edge with some people, and I agree with Tabs when she says the best idea is to keep it quiet. Being female and bi is pretty much a gift... you have the freedom of choice for pretty much anyone and hell, look at the majority of male replies to this topic... it's not like us lads think it's a bad thing
If you find a boy you like, you've pretty much no need to worry because telling him you're bi would 98% of the time make things better between you, and if it was a girl you'd probably be able to make the decision yourself if to trust her with that and with luck, maybe she'll be into it in return. Trust your judgement
If you really want to tell someone, between a parent and a homophobic group of friends, I'd say parent
. Most of the time in matters like this mums are pretty understanding (That's down to your opinion though) and parents I'd say are the first choice in sexuality-related matters, although slightly harder to talk to. If you're going for a friend, make sure it's one of your closest and get a general idea of their opinion on the matter for a start. It's not something you want to let ruin a friendship, but a majority of the time, a good friend won't Best of luck
By Mickey on 28/07/2009
Tell them straight, you didn't fancy them before they found out, so nothing has changed.
Besides, there's nothing wrong with a little girl on girl action.
Besides, there's nothing wrong with a little girl on girl action.
By Sum-41xx on 28/07/2009
Just never be afraid of what you are. Your real friends should understand.
By Stokenut on 28/07/2009
Pshh, I've known for months. It's about time you told some of them so you can be yourself. Your real friends won't care. I certainly don't.
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(19:48:02) [DI]Stokenut[138]: at the zoo
(19:48:05) [DI]Stokenut[138]: pick up what a hippo?
(19:48:14) Jessica ! :-O 11/16: Yeah i'm sure we could get some muff
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(19:48:28) [DI]Stokenut[138]: You just want me to get you some muff
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(19:47:41) Jessica ! :-O 11/16: i think we should do a pick up contest..
(19:47:44) Jessica ! :-O 11/16: sort of thing
(19:47:52) Jessica ! :-O 11/16: would be funneh
(19:48:02) [DI]Stokenut[138]: at the zoo
(19:48:05) [DI]Stokenut[138]: pick up what a hippo?
(19:48:14) Jessica ! :-O 11/16: Yeah i'm sure we could get some muff
(19:48:19) Jessica ! :-O 11/16:
(19:48:28) [DI]Stokenut[138]: You just want me to get you some muff
<3
By Dorcha3377 on 28/07/2009
At this time in your life it feels like you need to tell people, but unless it becomes an issue its really no ones business but your own.
Take it from me don't borrow trouble, it will find you out soon enough in life.
Take it from me don't borrow trouble, it will find you out soon enough in life.
By Bambaleo on 28/07/2009
why should you tell it to any1?....don't keep it secret but don't tell it to every1 either. Just keep it cool, it's not a biggie....it's not really their business, like jenny said.
By His Lordship on 28/07/2009
You know, a lot of guys find bi girls to be a big turn on.
By al0ysia pk on 30/07/2009
i think you should do what seems rite and what seems the best to you.
By Kecooler on 30/07/2009
| QUOTE (His Lordship @ July 28, 2009 11:36 pm) |
| You know, a lot of guys find bi girls to be a big turn on. |
Yeah. They're probably better than lesbians tbh, because then the boy has the chance to get involved rather than just watching.
As the saying goes...
If you're not Bi, you're missing half the fun
By Mistah Vince on 30/07/2009
Wow Jess, can't lie, I never saw this coming. Lmao. I had no clue. But it's okay, I still luff you. <3
People shouldn't suddenly dislike you because you're bi, there's nothing wrong with it. And if you do tell your friends, and they're like "We can't be friends anymore" because of it, then they were never your friends to begin with.
That's just me throwing my 2 cents in.
People shouldn't suddenly dislike you because you're bi, there's nothing wrong with it. And if you do tell your friends, and they're like "We can't be friends anymore" because of it, then they were never your friends to begin with.
That's just me throwing my 2 cents in.
By Zeth007 on 30/07/2009
| QUOTE (Maddness990 @ July 28, 2009 03:00 am) |
| Tell them straight |
I think you misunderstood.
By NOW on 01/08/2009
| QUOTE (His Lordship @ July 28, 2009 10:36 pm) |
| You know, a lot of guys find bi girls to be a big turn on. |
OMFG yes i find it very good to know bisexual girls... one of my closet friends is a bisexual and i told her if she gets another girl i get to sleep with her and the other girl even though she is going out with this guy right now... but tell one of ur best friends like she told me bc i am really close to her and we talk about everything together ... just got off the phone she was teling me if she needed to get a waterproof vibrator bc she gets wet and squirts i was like O M F G break up with ur boyfriend right now and have sex with me but didnt say that then she would be like no i love him then i would be like fine.... But trust me if a guy doesnt find that attractive then he is madly paranoid.
So my help is tell your best friends dont tell your parents a friend of mine told his parents he was bi they made him move to florida and go to a all guy catholic school which is strange bc hes gay all guy catholic school put the puzzle together gay hot showers with eachother -.- the parents r mad retarted
By NightRawrs on 02/08/2009
Okay so i've told most my irl friends now, well the close ones, and they're alright with it. Have told my aunty, and that's all the family that knows, i'll tell my mum when i get back off holiday probably.
Alls looking good.
Alls looking good.
By ThisIsUnique on 02/08/2009
good to hear jess
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