VERY SERIOUS

By Renoldojr10 on 03/06/2008

This is a very important subject and I honestly need your personal thoughts. Well, my father's dream has always been to become a part of the Lebanese government. The elections for office are next May 2009. He asked me one questions which I can't get out of my head. He asked me what I thought he said do, run for office and go live there by himself and we can only see him once a month, or wait. The thing that is pushing him so much now is the officers over in Lebanon are telling him that NOW is the time to run and many people over there believe that if he ran he could win. I do not want my dad to go away and not be a part of my life and I do not want to interfere with his dream. I want him to be happy, and at the same token I want him to be there for me and my brother who is three years behind me. I really wish this was easier but life isn't so I need your help and comments please. What should I do? Thanks.

~Ali
~One Love.

By Robertw56 on 03/06/2008

I really think this is something you should decide yourself, not by random people on the internet

By Renoldojr10 on 03/06/2008

Its not that I ask of you to decide for me, I ask for your thoughts and opinions.

By Firelion08 on 03/06/2008

I would tell him the truth.

Tell him what you're feeling.
I would want to be completely honest with him, because it is such an important decision. It wouldn't be right if he went on believing you were fine with him leaving... When you weren't. That wouldn't seem fair to me.

... That's just my opinion.

I wish you good luck, man.
And I hope things work out for you.

By Parth23 Jani on 03/06/2008

QUOTE (Renoldojr10 @ June 03, 2008 04:55 pm)

I do not want my dad to go away and not be a part of my life and I do not want to interfere with his dream.

You need to look at it from his point of view. It would be even harder for him to live without his family than it will be for you to live without him. But if that what he wants and has been wanting for a long time , of course he should have it. It's not like he's completely going away. I'd let him do what he wants to do

By Kiwi011 on 03/06/2008

wow this sucks for you.........I'm sorry dude, i really have no experience with this so no real help but here is what i would do.

Tell him how you feel about this and well just say what you feel. He has dreams just like everyone else so he should be able to fulfill them, but your his son and family is super important also.

Its a touch decision for him too i bet......just tell him how you feel and let him decide.

I cant say anything else.....sorry dude.

By pur3laugh on 03/06/2008

My dead Ali,
Just let your dad know your honest opinion. Maybe you two could talk and work things out. I'm sure you two will come down to a decision and both be happy with it. Take your time to talk to him and make sure its really what you both want. I hope things goes well and I hope you both make the right choice. I'm here if you need to talk <33 ya..

- Lacy

By Pyro Blade26 on 03/06/2008

Tell him your concerns, but also if he chooses to run still, be proud of him.

By Reticked on 03/06/2008

exactly what firelion says, tell him how you feel, and then also consider how he might feel.

By George on 03/06/2008

Imo.
Your dad is being very selfish loading all this burden on you and the rest of your family to decide.
This is a choice only your father can make, he is the one who will be doing this and he should know what is best for the family.

By Parth23 Jani on 03/06/2008

QUOTE (Gorgemaster @ June 03, 2008 08:58 pm)

Imo.
Your dad is being very selfish loading all this burden on you and the rest of your family to decide.

Actually , it would be selfish to tell him to not run.
If he just made the decision by himself and left , he would probably come off as a bad person/father. He's actually asking his family even though he wants this.
By 'telling him how you feel' like some people say , you're making thigs more complicated than they are.

By Firelion08 on 03/06/2008

QUOTE (Parth23 Jani @ June 03, 2008 10:14 pm)

QUOTE (Gorgemaster @ June 03, 2008 08:58 pm)

Imo.
Your dad is being very selfish loading all this burden on you and the rest of your family to decide.

Making things more complicated than they are? Elaborate.
The issue is already sensitive. Any decision he makes, whether it be to ignore or divulge his feelings to his father, will still have a large impact on the situation, regardless of which.

Things have already become complicated, it's apparent, even from our perspective...
And, although there's no guarantee things will become less complicated, it is probably best to make a decision when it may have the greatest influence on a possibly favorable solution... Or not take action at all.

He has asked for our thoughts, and we have given them. Don't criticize us for that.
It is still a matter of free will.

QUOTE

Imo.
Your dad is being very selfish loading all this burden on you and the rest of your family to decide.

Pressure comes with tough choices. I would assume his Father is well aware of the position he has put his family in... And I don't see how there is any easy way of avoiding it, without being completely selfish.

If anything, I'd say his Father is being the opposite of selfish. Afterall, if he values their opinions enough and they disagree, he would have to acknowledge that fact and act according to their feelings.

By bbgunmaster on 03/06/2008

There is a famous little green guy called Yoda, he once said:

"Use your feelings"

So should you...

By Parth23 Jani on 04/06/2008

Wasn't critisizinig anyone , Fire.

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